the toughest part about growing up is probably the expectation that you have to fix your problems yourself.
Anyway, I have been trying to wrap my head around the complexities of getting a visa here in Australia and when I needed a real solution, I could not turn to my parents. The only people that could really help me resolve anything were the professionals. I wrote emails to managers, HR personnel, lawyers and consultants just to cover all bases. Ultimately, I got the answers I needed. It just felt all quite impersonal.
Is this why we grow up desiring a partner because we get tired of fighting our own battles? We really just want a "partner in crime"?
Of course, I was able to whine and complain to my amazing friends and family who gave me encouragement and comfort. It just all feels a little lonely when they are not right by your side. I am, however, very grateful for technology that allows me to write emails, sms, whatsapp, google chat and make phone calls to all these people I trust.
It's just that sometimes I wish I did not have to smile or cry to myself in my room... alone...
Side Note: Maybe fighting your own battles is just a very European way of thinking.
I watched a video of Africans trying to make it Europe and they expressed that their biggest culture shock is how nobody wants to make your problem their business. They will not invite you into their homes if you are hungry and have no where else to go; and you should just forget it if you even hint that your visa is not exactly valid.
Why has years of capitalism and imperialism reduced society to such individualism instead of an increased engagement in community?
